Gay and Christian?

There are times, when I want to sit down and write about this subject and become dumb-founded. It's always difficult for me to pick a starting point that will open up the best dialogue. I also apologize upfront for not being the eloquent of writer. This is just my heart put into the best words I have.
I’ll start with a question. This question has been posed to me; "Can you be gay and be Christian too?"I'll answer this question from my perspective and would enjoy hearing your responses.
My answer is very directly YES.

Now, allow me to break that down. By defining what it is to be gay, in my mind. Being gay is simply the attraction to the same sex. There is no "sin" in that. It is just as equal to a straight person being attracted to the opposite gender.
So when exactly is my being gay an issue? I believe that to be when and if I engage in a sexual act. Not even having a boyfriend would be "wrong". If I lived with the person I loved, would Christ not permit that? How about if we shared a bank account? Cooked for each other? Pick out china together? Go out to dinner together? Absolutely not! None of these are against any order or request of God. He simply requests that we not be sexually immoral. I can have EVERYTHING that is beautiful about a relationship, but according to the traditional sense of sin, I just can't have the sex, due to the fact that it would be outside of marriage.Wait... but that's the same for any two people, gay or straight, male or female. A straight unmarried couple can share all of the same activities and events mentioned above and there would be no dilemma. There is no established boundary crossed there. It would not be permissible to engage in sexual activities together.

For some of us, the issue can end there. We are willing to have the relationship and not the sex. The fact that gay marriage is not acceptable in today’s social mind would mean that any sex for a gay couple would be outside of marriage are therefore, not allowed.

Some of us want more (the sex) but in order for that sex act to be “right” it would need to be only in marriage. I will speak about gay marriage in a future entry.

For now, I’d like to clarify why a gay man or woman in most of today’s churches would not be allowed to have a quality life/love partner when I’ve outlined in my thoughts above how the relationship would not break any moral limitations.
If there is no wrong, then why the fight against it? I believe there to be something else at the root here as to why the church is so against the gay lifestyle. It can't be that it is a sinful way of living. I believe it to be the social/mental conditioning of the society we live in here in the U.S. We already know that western religion is so regulated, ruled and organized. Along with that, we have over the years engrained in ourselves a set image of what it is to be a "man/woman". I don't believe that we can possibly be people of equality and justice when we put an expectation or mold on any person or persons. We are all too far individual, unique and special. I am not like any other one person. Nor are you. You are YOU and I am who I am. I should not be expected to BE any particular way. Yet, society has its idea of how a male/female should act, look, behave, talk and think. Many societies across our world are more accepting and giving of the freedom of individuality. America needs to get there. We can only do so with open dialogue and clear care for one another. If we do not take the time to learn and understand each other, we will NEVER be able to move forward. I am done with the bickering and fighting that goes on between Christians and non, conservatives and liberal or the left and right. We need to stop screaming for just a bit and listen! This is the only way we will be able to come to the truth and knowledge of ourselves.That is exactly what I needed to do. For years, I was so used to just accepting what was preached at me without question or thought. Though I was gay myself, I spoke against it. Years back I didn't know who I was or why. After questioning and educating myself I found out who I was. I began then asking God, what are you going to do with this? It is who I am I didn't ask for it but it's what I've been "dealt". I now have a goal and purpose to pursue truth Christ without the institutional/traditional ideas of judgment, arrogance and pride. C.S Lewis pointed out in his acclaimed book “Mere Christianity” that the root or defining characteristic of Christian morality is PRIDE. He states in a prior chapter that sexual morality is a small consideration as it is such a small part of what it is to be a follower of Christ.

Lewis tells us that pride causes arrogance, loftiness, judgment and condemnation of fellow beings. In today’s church, a person who isn’t gay is proclaimed to be a Christian so long as all the “rules” are obeyed. They can be arrogant about their status as a good Christian, make prideful judgments, and in the ignorance of their pride condemn others. However, as long as they obey the rules, they are a good Christian. This is not the same view that Christ has; He doesn’t care if you “look” like a Christian. He is more concerned with the character, integrity and spiritual quality of a person. Those are the defining characteristics of a person who truly follows Him as opposed to those seeking earthly approval.

I think that fits perfectly with the often taught and preached philosophy of “God looks at the heart!” How many times have we heard those words spoken but seen the opposite acted out by people claiming to be in pursuit of Christ. In the judgment and evaluation of others, the very opposite is exclaimed.

I hope that this one blog can be of use to you somehow. I look forward to sharing some of my future thoughts with you soon.

Live blessed and in joy.

Some of the topics I will be writing about here are:
Gay Marriage - a spiritual and legal debate - I am in favor - God is more concerned with the purity than with body partsGay Genes & the root of homosexuality- "I'm just born this way" - I opposeFaith - Being a good Christian and live a gay lifestyle - I am in favor - God's grace and how He adapts to our world yet remains unchanged Himself
Representing Grace and Love – no condemnation, love – I am in favor

and more…